The Day I Found My Dad

I have two memories of my biological father. I remember him beating me with a belt as a young child for not drinking my milk and I remember my mother sobbing after his abuse. He left when I was seven. I never knew why. I didn’t care.

The man I refer to as dad is my stepfather. He was caring, kind and supportive. He was also an alcoholic, which caused some chaos and problems in my life. But, on balance, I was so fortunate to have him as my dad.

My fondest memory is the day my mother, who managed the money and was very frugal, gave dad the money to go buy a new pair of shoes. He desperately needed them because there were holes the size of quarters in the soles and he used cardboard inserts to prevent walking on his socks.

Later that day he returned by bus, since we had no car. I saw them coming down the street my brother Randy riding a tricycle and my dad pushing a used two wheel bike for me. No gears. No fancy brakes. But to me it was beautiful. It is also the best gift I have ever received.

My mother was furious. And my mother knew how to do furious. She loved my dad and felt he needed new shoes way more than Randy and I needed bikes. Of course she was correct, but this was about more than a bike, or shoes.

Until that day I had wondered if I was just part of the package when my dad asked my mother to marry him. I felt like I had never had a dad. Not really. That day I knew my step-father loved me. If he was willing to make the sacrifice of the shoes and the wrath of my mother, he had to care. I was twelve, and finally, I had a dad.

A short time later, in 1959, my dad asked to adopt me. I said yes in a heartbeat. Melvin Wesley Anderson officially became my father and dad.  My dad wasn’t perfect, who among us is? But he loved me and always had my best interests at heart.

He died in 1974, at 61, from cancer but he lives on in my heart.

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